Does anyone else have a family member they feel bad for that hav
Does anyone else have a family member they feel bad for that hav
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TEXASGIRLMAMMA : Yeah. She is a momma bear type. If they need her she will never say no.
Kaylagirl : I can understand that, but, sometimes there must be a limit.
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Kaylagirl : I will probably be that person who keeps working, but I like working. I would be bored at home. I will not be supporting adult children, though, just pets.
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From 50,000 ft, every decision you make in life acts like a seed that inevitably produces a harvest, forming a direct line between your daily choices and your future reality.
Skippy : So aptly put, thank you!
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Does anyone else have a family member they feel bad for that have to work until an older age? One of my sisters is, and I feel bad for her. Her husband passed away 10 years ago, and she has 3 kids that don't go away. Her career job is gone and now she works 2 retail jobs. But I guess she is happy enough. I would not be.
Kaylagirl : BTW, You should not be feeling bad about your sisters situation. She seems to want it that way and therefore you are free to continue on and not let it bother you.
Kaylagirl : Are any of the adult children special needs? I know mine live at home at 30 but both contribute. When I leave, the house is theirs but I planned that out for them and for it to paid for as part of their trust fund. I'm not getting the feeling this is the case with hers though.
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KingwoodNana : Well cats are different than humans lol. Their job is being cute, funny and loving. Full grown people need to work IMO, and not party every weekend going to concerts in Vegas while Momma works her a.. off to support them. It upsets me and I know it does her... but she is a Momma bear and nothing will change most likely.
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BooBear : She complains about it. But I know she needs to vent.
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Kaylagirl : Maybe she should move into a one bedroom or efficiency apartment.
No room for the kids, except to visit for a few hours.
The 'kids' are adults now and should be self-sufficient.
Kaylagirl : "What You Allow, is What Will Continue". I wonder if she feels that her kids will not 'love' her, or they will 'abandon' her, if she refuses them? Let her know she Deserves better than that. That is all you can do. There comes a time that you cannot listen to her complaints, If she does not try to change things; that will wear You out.
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LittleTexas : I am sure she feels like this keeps them around to keep her company and having them love her....you're right. I'm trying to understand this, but I don't feel like this is good for her or the kids. If they're this dependent on her, what are they going to do when she is gone?
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Donnawisdom : Donnawisdom : That is what her son said to her. She said we helped you too. He has been on his own forever. She is making excuses for coddling them of course.
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