Arrests Made In Tristan Maddux Murder Case

buffaloglenn : I didn't want to read any of it. I stayed off of it for days and had no interest, as I was in mourning myself and was helping the family as much as possible. However, when I spoke with Tristan's mom, she was in anguish, and it was further exacerbated by comments on this site. She expressed her sadness over the comments, so I logged on myself and read the pages and pages of bickering and animosity. I did it for Karen, as her friend and comforter, so that I could be better informed to help her through this. I now understand her grief over this more clearly, and I felt the need to respond - because that's what friends do. I don't hide behind fancy, clever usernames, and I know that I am imperfect like everyone else. But, I will stand up for a friend and defend the dead, if they are amongst those I love and care about. I hope this answers your query. 4951

myevilgrin : Thank you for your kind heart. ❤️ 4951

mm4731 : I got it about five seconds after my post! 4951

Cynthiabell : We all feel for the family, and most of the comments on here reflected that. People will always be curious as to what happened (human nature) and there will always be a few who make wrong and / or wild assumptions. I think, if you look at the posts honestly you will see that. Please understand that there is never any winner in a social media boxing match. It is a court of public opinion, with no judge to decide anything. Again, I hope Tristan's family can find peace and strength through this terrible time for them. 4951

When a violent crime occurs, I think people feel safer if they can put the circumstances within the victim's control, it's a natural reaction. If a crime is random, then it can happen to anybody, if the victim is doing something risky, then that's not something that will happen to someone not engaged in that activity. All of this does not help the people left behind though. 4951

buffaloglenn : Thank you! Yes, I get that people need to discuss tragic events to wrap their heads around such a senseless tragedy. But there's a way to do it more conscientiously. I do acknowledge that most of the posts were very sweet and thoughtful, but the few accusatory and judgmental posts were a bit over the top. Too much, too soon. With that being said, the outpouring of love and support from the community has been amazing, and we appreciate the goodness still left in humanity. I didn't want to comment or cause a stir, or even read the thread for that matter, but I felt I had to stand in defense of this heartbroken family. Regardless of the conjecture and assumptions, they are good people with kind hearts, and unless anyone has walked a day in their shoes, it is better to leave the negativity behind on this one. Thanks to all who have prayed or supported this family during their time of extreme duress. 4951

Cynthiabell : Continued prayers for his mom. I can't even imagine the pain she's in. 4951

@ForeCPA90 : I understand what you're saying. It is a defense mechanism, but when improperly applied, can be most hurtful. 😢 4951

Cynthiabell : I can't even imagine. I hope his family finds comfort. 4951

teatime : So sorry for all that you endured. Hugs and prayers to you and your family. ❤️ 4951

Cynthiabell: I'm truly sorry about the loss of Tristan. I can't imagine the pain the family is going through. I'm also sorry that the moms pain was added to by some of the comments on here. I pray you all will treasure your memories of Tristan during his short life. I love what teatime said in her last paragraph. 4951

I wish Tristan's mom had not read all of these posts. I have no doubt she will be living with "what if's" for the rest of her life.. Reading posts with accusations and blame is the worst thing she could have done. I see people judging and making assumptions based on little things they observe or hear. Yet, they have no idea. I hope they never know what it's like to watch an amazing person who they love struggle, feeling helpless to rescue them. I hope their children never make life-altering mistakes and are perfect every day of their lives. But if their kids ever mess up, I hope no one judges them and scrutinizes their parenting. Luckily there are a lot of caring people in this community to support this mom. Maybe she can focus on the kindness and put the others out of her mind. They have been in my prayers 4951

HRKW : Very well stated. Thank you for sharing your sentiments. ❤️ 4951

peppermintstick : Thank you for your prayers. It's a parent's worst nightmare. 4951