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At what age do you stop letting your kids win games?

At what age do you stop letting your kids win games?

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by: dotti573 Active Indicator LED Icon 15 OP 
~ 7 years ago   Nov 25, '16 8:39pm  
My DD will be 12 in January and I don't let her win.  Some games she does beat me at but not most.  We did Just Dance this afternoon and I whooped her butt.  She gets all mad.  Am I supposed to let her win?  What do you all do? 4951
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mutton Active Indicator LED Icon 9
~ 7 years ago   Nov 25, '16 8:43pm  
We were to let them win?  Dam goose.... 4951
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TXtransplant Active Indicator LED Icon 13
~ 7 years ago   Nov 25, '16 8:46pm  
For me at about age 5.
 
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dotti573 Active Indicator LED Icon 15 OP 
~ 7 years ago   Nov 25, '16 8:52pm  
My DH has never let her win ever.  He fights to the death with her.  I used to try to let her win once in awhile.  But good, now I don't feel bad for not letting her win...lol 4951
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CC1974 Active Indicator LED Icon 8
~ 7 years ago   Nov 25, '16 8:52pm  
4 or 5
 
Children need to learn that the joy is playing the game. If you let them win they won't learn appropriate behavior when they lose either st school or with friends. No one likes a sore loser. 4951
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AuthorMan Active Indicator LED Icon 17
~ 7 years ago   Nov 25, '16 9:03pm  
When they leave the womb, it is time for them to fend for themselves.On a serious note- if they have to compete and are given a good effort they will appreciate it more when they start kicking our butts. 4951
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donnatella Active Indicator LED Icon 13 Forum Moderator
~ 7 years ago   Nov 25, '16 9:11pm  
The election protests are all about an entire generation who has grown up under "everyone wins and gets a trophy." Look where that got us.
 
Letting toddlers and pee-wees win to help them grow and develop self esteem is one thing, but once kids are of the age of awareness, where they get it and comprehend the basics of life, it's time to let them experience real life and learn to win and lose gracefully and be a good sport.
 
NORMAL Little League and YMCA sports are set up that way, and use a good model for competition. Not sure about the starting ages nowdays, but that would be easy to find. 4951
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dotti573 Active Indicator LED Icon 15 OP 
~ 7 years ago   Nov 25, '16 9:21pm  
Hey.  She has been practicing which means excersizing all day so that she can beat me.  She learned a few years ago that not everyone gets a trophy even if they do what they are supposed to. Her school gave out trophies if you did a certain number of hours of reading each year.  She got left out even though she should have gotten the trophy because she did what she was supposed to do.  I asked if she wanted me to talk to someone and she said no, she already had 3 others.  She wasn't worried about it.  She doesn't really participate in a lot of sports so she has never been one to receive a trophy for just being part of it.She also has been making fun of the way students are acting with the election.  It seems they discussed the election a lot in 6th grade.    I think she is going to be alright in life.  At least I hope so. 4951
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~ 7 years ago   Nov 26, '16 9:01am  
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allymansfield Active Indicator LED Icon 11
~ 7 years ago   Nov 26, '16 9:25am  
At 12 I say it's time for her to learn that winning is on merit not participation. Of course be gracious and fun about it, but she needs to understand that you don't always win. And as for getting mad about it, from the standpoint of a coach, nip that in the bud now. No coach or fellow athletes will want to play with her if she gets mad whenever she looses. Instead try to instill a sense of competition, if she looses challenge her to another game or a different one. But don't let her get angry or pout when she looses, it will be a long and disappointing life if she develops that mentality. 😞 4951
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~ 7 years ago   Nov 26, '16 10:16am  
I never let my kids win...lol even as babies. What I did was help them learn how to win on their own....
 
Ok ok..maybe as babies I did a little....😂 4951
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TEXASGIRLMAMMA Active Indicator LED Icon 10
~ 7 years ago   Nov 26, '16 10:31am  
I never let mine win all the time, even when they were little.  It is just too unrealistic to let them win all the time.  It is good for them to learn at an early age to deal with things not going their way.   You should not rub it in when you win and you should not be a sore loser when you lose.  I know it is difficult but it is good for kids to see how to handle winning and losing. 4951
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ExBlue Active Indicator LED Icon 11
~ 7 years ago   Nov 26, '16 10:40am  
I am the youngest of a large family. I used to lose, a lot, but I also learned early on, if you wanted to survive, you had to learn to fight until the end! And I agree about the Snowflake Generation, who can't take an exam, and needs playdough and crayons, because their chosen presidential candidate lost! Give me a break! 4951
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~ 7 years ago   Nov 26, '16 11:01am  
I am the youngest of a large family. I used to lose, a lot, but I also learned early on, if you wanted to survive, you had to learn to fight until the end! And I agree about the Snowflake Generation, who can't take an exam, and needs playdough and crayons, because their chosen presidential candidate lost! Give me a break!
 
@ExBlue: I am the youngest too..I learned to run in a zig zag pattern.
 
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~ 7 years ago   Nov 26, '16 4:34pm  
I whooped her butt. She gets all mad.
 
@dotti573: When my sons were ages 10 and 15 they got so frustrated  when I played them tough in basketball. But the 15 year old  hit a growth spurt and started pinning my layups to the backboard and when the 10 year old reached 14 he was too fast for me to guard. So my advice is ... win while you can ! LOL 
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BooBear Active Indicator LED Icon 16
~ 7 years ago   Nov 26, '16 4:46pm  
@uneasyrider I could ALWAYS beat my kids in swimming..they never got close, UNTIL my son got all long and skinny and joined the swim team..I stopped trying to race him. He took way too much pleasure in beating me. 4951
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