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by: allymansfield Active Indicator LED Icon 11 OP 
~ 7 years ago   Jul 19, '16 6:39pm  
My little boy is 19 months old and a very sweet little man, but yesterday (he didn't take his second nap in the afternoon) he walked up to his baby sister (3 weeks old) while I was holding her and smacked her in the face, hard.  He defiantly did it on purpose because he immediately looked at me and said "No!".  I put him in time out and told him no hitting.  Usually he is so good with her, giving kisses, patting her on the back when she has hiccups, rubbing her head, and tickling her feet.  This came out of no where.  Then today, again no second nap, I was nursing her and he was kissing her head then all the sudden face planted her again.  I don't know why he is doing it but it is really upsetting me.  He is only 1.5 so it's not like I can reason with him, but I know that he knows he is not supposed to be doing it.  Occasionally he will hit me or kick his dad/my husband when he is tired too.  Any advice? 4951
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dotti573 Active Indicator LED Icon 15
~ 7 years ago   Jul 19, '16 6:44pm  
A new baby in the house is a huge adjustment for him.  You are going to have to keep telling him no until he understands and do not leave him alone with the baby.  You don't know what could happen when you are not around if he is behaving like that in front of you.  I don't mean to sound mean but you need to be careful. 4951
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~ 7 years ago   Jul 19, '16 6:48pm  
My little boy is 19 months old and a very sweet little man, but yesterday (he didn't take his second nap in the afternoon) he walked up to his baby sister (3 weeks old) while I was holding her and smacked her in the face, hard.  He defiantly did it on purpose because he immediately looked at me and said "No!".  I put him in time out and told him no hitting.  Usually he is so good with her, giving kisses, patting her on the back when she has hiccups, rubbing her head, and tickling her feet.  This came out of no where.  Then today, again no second nap, I was nursing her and he was kissing her head then all the sudden face planted her again.  I don't know why he is doing it but it is really upsetting me.  He is only 1.5 so it's not like I can reason with him, but I know that he knows he is not supposed to be doing it.  Occasionally he will hit me or kick his dad/my husband when he is tired too.  Any advice?
 
@allymansfield:
 
Sounds like he's over sharing you with the new baby. Jealousy is normal and it will pass. But stay firm in your discipline and try to get him to either take his second nap, nap longer, or go to bed earlier.
 
Is the new baby waking him at night? If so...do whatever you can to stop that. A noise machine works wonders for drowning out that sound. Mine still have noise machines on full blast in their rooms. 4951
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podunk Active Indicator LED Icon 8
~ 7 years ago   Jul 19, '16 6:49pm  
Seems tired, jealous and wanting the attention the baby is getting. 4951
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J2911 Active Indicator LED Icon 8
~ 7 years ago   Jul 19, '16 6:51pm  
My little boy is 19 months old and a very sweet little man, but yesterday (he didn't take his second nap in the afternoon) he walked up to his baby sister (3 weeks old) while I was holding her and smacked her in the face, hard.  He defiantly did it on purpose because he immediately looked at me and said "No!".  I put him in time out and told him no hitting.  Usually he is so good with her, giving kisses, patting her on the back when she has hiccups, rubbing her head, and tickling her feet.  This came out of no where.  Then today, again no second nap, I was nursing her and he was kissing her head then all the sudden face planted her again.  I don't know why he is doing it but it is really upsetting me.  He is only 1.5 so it's not like I can reason with him, but I know that he knows he is not supposed to be doing it.  Occasionally he will hit me or kick his dad/my husband when he is tired too.  Any advice?
 
@allymansfield:
 
Keep doing what you are doing. Separate him immediately and tell him it is wrong. Give him a time out or take away while telling him it is wrong. Then supervise him heavily when he is around her. Let him love on her but you have to be on the defense and watch his hand and any clues that he is about to strike her. You just have to watch him closely and reinforce that it is wrong. It is a phase. It will pass. Also, make sure to give him lots of attention and love right now as he is probably doing a lot of this out of jealousy. He is no longer the baby and he doesn't understand why. Just keep letting him know he is loved, pay him lots of attention and try to do things with him alone sometimes. It will get better and they will become best friends. Promise. Congratulations!
 
Oh and if he is saying "no" after he does it, you would be surprised how much you can reason with him. 4951
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allymansfield Active Indicator LED Icon 11 OP 
~ 7 years ago   Jul 19, '16 6:53pm  
A new baby in the house is a huge adjustment for him.  You are going to have to keep telling him no until he understands and do not leave him alone with the baby.  You don't know what could happen when you are not around if he is behaving like that in front of you.  I don't mean to sound mean but you need to be careful.
 
@dotti573: Defiantly.  We don't leave the baby alone with him or with the dog.  She stays on a table top where neither can reach if I have to step away.  On the flip side, in the mornings when I get him up I put her in her crib.  Once he is dressed he runs across the hall to her room, climbs on the crib and waves/throws her kisses.  But when he is tired he gets mean.  I don't know why though.
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allymansfield Active Indicator LED Icon 11 OP 
~ 7 years ago   Jul 19, '16 6:55pm  

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>> My little boy is 19 months old and a very sweet little man, but yesterday (he didn't take his second nap in the afternoon) he walked up to his baby sister (3 weeks old) while I was holding her and smacked her in the face, hard.  He defiantly did it on purpose because he immediately looked at me and said "No!".  I put him in time out and told him no hitting.  Usually he is so good with her, giving kisses, patting her on the back when she has hiccups, rubbing her head, and tickling her feet.  This came out of no where.  Then today, again no second nap, I was nursing her and he was kissing her head then all the sudden face planted her again.  I don't know why he is doing it but it is really upsetting me.  He is only 1.5 so it's not like I can reason with him, but I know that he knows he is not supposed to be doing it.  Occasionally he will hit me or kick his dad/my husband when he is tired too.  Any advice?
 
@allymansfield:
 
Sounds like he's over sharing you with the new baby. Jealousy is normal and it will pass. But stay firm in your discipline and try to get him to either take his second nap, nap longer, or go to bed earlier.
 
Is the new baby waking him at night? If so...do whatever you can to stop that. A noise machine works wonders for drowning out that sound. Mine still have noise machines on full blast in their rooms.
 
@taramay: Baby is still in our room and not waking him at night, he sleeps from 7pm to at least 7am, so he is getting good sleep at night.  Usually a two hour nap in the morning, sometimes a 2 hour nap in the afternoon.  I thought it was jealously too, but do you think a one and a half year old can be jealous?  I try to keep the baby in another room when she is sleeping so that we have our own "private" time together, but it doesn't seem to be making a difference.  Emoticon
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J2911 Active Indicator LED Icon 8
~ 7 years ago   Jul 19, '16 6:55pm  

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>> A new baby in the house is a huge adjustment for him.  You are going to have to keep telling him no until he understands and do not leave him alone with the baby.  You don't know what could happen when you are not around if he is behaving like that in front of you.  I don't mean to sound mean but you need to be careful.
 
@dotti573: Defiantly.  We don't leave the baby alone with him or with the dog.  She stays on a table top where neither can reach if I have to step away.  On the flip side, in the mornings when I get him up I put her in her crib.  Once he is dressed he runs across the hall to her room, climbs on the crib and waves/throws her kisses.  But when he is tired he gets mean.  I don't know why though.
 
@allymansfield:
 
Reinforce napping if you think it's tied to that. I think it's normal. But napping can't hurt. 4951
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J2911 Active Indicator LED Icon 8
~ 7 years ago   Jul 19, '16 6:56pm  

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>> My little boy is 19 months old and a very sweet little man, but yesterday (he didn't take his second nap in the afternoon) he walked up to his baby sister (3 weeks old) while I was holding her and smacked her in the face, hard.  He defiantly did it on purpose because he immediately looked at me and said "No!".  I put him in time out and told him no hitting.  Usually he is so good with her, giving kisses, patting her on the back when she has hiccups, rubbing her head, and tickling her feet.  This came out of no where.  Then today, again no second nap, I was nursing her and he was kissing her head then all the sudden face planted her again.  I don't know why he is doing it but it is really upsetting me.  He is only 1.5 so it's not like I can reason with him, but I know that he knows he is not supposed to be doing it.  Occasionally he will hit me or kick his dad/my husband when he is tired too.  Any advice?
 
@allymansfield:
 
Sounds like he's over sharing you with the new baby. Jealousy is normal and it will pass. But stay firm in your discipline and try to get him to either take his second nap, nap longer, or go to bed earlier.
 
Is the new baby waking him at night? If so...do whatever you can to stop that. A noise machine works wonders for drowning out that sound. Mine still have noise machines on full blast in their rooms.
 
@taramay: Baby is still in our room and not waking him at night, he sleeps from 7pm to at least 7am, so he is getting good sleep at night.  Usually a two hour nap in the morning, sometimes a 2 hour nap in the afternoon.  I thought it was jealously too, but do you think a one and a half year old can be jealous?  I try to keep the baby in another room when she is sleeping so that we have our own "private" time together, but it doesn't seem to be making a difference.  Emoticon
 
@allymansfield:
 
Absolutely YES babies can be jealous. Babies younger than him can be jealous. 4951
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Maisey1 Active Indicator LED Icon 9
~ 7 years ago   Jul 19, '16 6:57pm  
My older child acted very similar when her baby sister came along. It also started around the time the baby was 3-4 weeks old. First she didn't want to let me nurse her sister, crying and trying to pull my nursing pillow away, then things escalated and she bit the baby's finger so hard I thought she broke it and next jumping on-top of the baby. I about lost it with her! The baby learned to make this weird squealing/crying noise whenever big sister came into view so I would know to come rescue her. Since I knew she was jealous of the attention her new baby sister was getting, I made sure to make a little extra time for the older child or include her in small chores to "help" mommy and when my husband came home from work he would take just her out of the house to go do something, even if was just down the street to visit neighbors. Once she started getting that little bit of extra attention the bad behavior stopped. They still fight like cats and dogs, even though they are 14 and 16 now! 4951
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allymansfield Active Indicator LED Icon 11 OP 
~ 7 years ago   Jul 19, '16 6:58pm  
He loves to kiss her.  When he is good, he is such a sweet little man, but when he is tired, he is a beast.  Emoticon
 
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DanStanton Active Indicator LED Icon 3
~ 7 years ago   Jul 19, '16 6:59pm  
Smack him back. He may not know it hurts. 4951
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dotti573 Active Indicator LED Icon 15
~ 7 years ago   Jul 19, '16 6:59pm  
Don't forget, it's only been 3 weeks.  He is getting used to it as much as you guys are.  Hang in there.  It will get better. 4951
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taramay Active Indicator LED Icon 14
~ 7 years ago   Jul 19, '16 7:00pm  

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>> My little boy is 19 months old and a very sweet little man, but yesterday (he didn't take his second nap in the afternoon) he walked up to his baby sister (3 weeks old) while I was holding her and smacked her in the face, hard.  He defiantly did it on purpose because he immediately looked at me and said "No!".  I put him in time out and told him no hitting.  Usually he is so good with her, giving kisses, patting her on the back when she has hiccups, rubbing her head, and tickling her feet.  This came out of no where.  Then today, again no second nap, I was nursing her and he was kissing her head then all the sudden face planted her again.  I don't know why he is doing it but it is really upsetting me.  He is only 1.5 so it's not like I can reason with him, but I know that he knows he is not supposed to be doing it.  Occasionally he will hit me or kick his dad/my husband when he is tired too.  Any advice?
 
@allymansfield:
 
Sounds like he's over sharing you with the new baby. Jealousy is normal and it will pass. But stay firm in your discipline and try to get him to either take his second nap, nap longer, or go to bed earlier.
 
Is the new baby waking him at night? If so...do whatever you can to stop that. A noise machine works wonders for drowning out that sound. Mine still have noise machines on full blast in their rooms.
 
@taramay: Baby is still in our room and not waking him at night, he sleeps from 7pm to at least 7am, so he is getting good sleep at night.  Usually a two hour nap in the morning, sometimes a 2 hour nap in the afternoon.  I thought it was jealously too, but do you think a one and a half year old can be jealous?  I try to keep the baby in another room when she is sleeping so that we have our own "private" time together, but it doesn't seem to be making a difference.  Emoticon
 
@allymansfield:
 
100% he's jealous! He's no longer getting 100% of your attention and it's not fair in his mind. My 3 1/2 year old still gets jealous sometimes and whines that she needs her momma when I'm dealing with her 15 month old brother. 4951
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allymansfield Active Indicator LED Icon 11 OP 
~ 7 years ago   Jul 19, '16 7:01pm  
Smack him back. He may not know it hurts.
 
@DanStanton: I don't think that will help, but rather confuse him.  To tell him "no hitting" and then follow that up by hitting him is going to confuse him, I think.  He knows it hurts because he will do it then say "No" or "Ouch".
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J2911 Active Indicator LED Icon 8
~ 7 years ago   Jul 19, '16 7:20pm  
You've got cute kids. Trust us....it gets better. It will pass. Soon enough, she will be able to defend herself and then he will be the one you have to protect! Lol! 4951
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