OK...#1...I don't think I referred to my friend as a "female" and I don't start off at the bars with my friend. He goes on his own, calls me after the fact he has been there for hours. So I am NOT taking my friend to the bars. And I must say he does admit he is a "functioning alcoholic" but the one think I am thankful for is I have NEVER seen him drive when leaving a bar intoxicated. He calls Uber, calls a cab or calls me ON HIS OWN! But I think the wait staff should be more trained in how/when to cut him off. The wait staff have NEVER offered to call a cab for him. And I just think that is wrong.To the person who wrote about the friend that works in Porter that will cut someone off, THANK GOD for her! That is what my initial message intention was for. I don't see bartenders/waitresses cutting my friend off, they are all about the sale.Thank you all for your input. I know the bartenders are not to be babysitters but there are alcoholics out there and it is hard to get them to accept or want the help. I can't keep an eye on him at all times as I am not his babysitter or his girlfriend neither. I just have to pray one day he will overcome this addiction
@Strofan:
I used to be bartender and worked in many states. Most made us take a class with the police department. They talked about laws, how to spot fake id's and spot a drunk. Told us our responsibility as the bartender and what we were legally able to do.
We have a right to refuse service for any reason. Not 4 hours after my Tempe Arizona class I was at work when this guy came in. He didn't smell like alcohol but he staggered in, bellied up and hung onto the bar tight. I refused to serve him. He was belligerent and started tossing bar stools insisting he wanted a beer and he wasn't drunk. I told him he did not have to be drunk for me to refuse him service. A bar tender while on duty is not allowed out from behind the bar to deal with it. I had my boys there and they got him out while I called 911. They plucked the guy out of the bushes down the street and brought him back for identification. They found a bunch of drugs on him. If I had served him and he walked outside and got run over, I could have been responsible.
As far as Someone admitting they are a functioning alcoholic is a red flag. Some you would never know it. Yet you expect a bar or a bar tender to know a stranger's deepest secret?
You come on here looking for validation that bars should be responsible. Where is your responsibility as a friend? You say you don't take him to bars , yet that's not how I read your OP. Sounds likes all your friend wants to do is drink so you go to bars where they drink too much and then you get upset.
Then when you didn't get the response you wanted, you attacked. So juvenile.
Fact is your friend is an adult, responsible for his life choices. Glad he chooses not to drink and drive.
You can always call him a car rather than go get him if you choose but you can not blame anyone else for his or your choices.
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