Your own baby will evoke things in you that a beloved pet doesn't. Even tho you love your pets, your life changes. For the first time you know what it's like to love something even more than yourself. You know that you would give your life for that baby. I don't see why a pet has to be ignored. You do have changes in your life when a baby comes, but it's not so hard to spend time with a pet. They are always there...
eta pet ownership and having babies are both choices one can make. This is why people should plan ahead, it's not fair for the pet that's been there for 8 years to get dumped because of a new baby due to the parent being too lazy for both of their commitments.
I plan on training my dogs with a stroller on walks at least three months before I am due. I want to walk the dogs and the baby together evey morning, weather permitting. Making it part of the daily routine.
So they will see the baby as part of the pack.
Not sure what else I will do.
I know I am not bringing my baby to a dog park. I will take the dogs to the park when my DH can watch the baby or vis versa.
I guess I just don't get lazy being used that way. Becoming a parent changes your responsibilities, it is more important for the new baby to be cared for first. Babies even come before job. A new mom also has to care for herself and everyone else that depends on her. If the dog doesn't get walked because of everything else to be done, I'm sure the dog will be OK. I promise the dog, in the beginning is not the only thing that will be somewhat neglected. It all evens out and gets to a new normal.
I've never known one single person who dumped a pet due to a baby coming into the household...Now, if all of sudden you had quads or some other multiple, I could see a lack of time with the pet happening.
TTH, if I had a penny for every time I've seen it happen I'd be living comfortably.
Here is only 2 examples from my personal list:
Male 10 year old blue Doberman, owner surrender at MCAS, reasoning: they had a baby and didn't have time for their senior dog
Female GSD, AKC papered(not that it means anything), the family called our rescue finally after having the dog TIED up in their backyard for an entire year. Reasoning: they had a baby and didn't want to deal with their pet anymore. That beautiful dog came to us with many behaviorial problems that could have been easily prevented.