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Family Drama Called My Celly Tonight.....

Family Drama Called My Celly Tonight.....

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herron1345 Active Indicator LED Icon 16 OP 
~ 9 years ago   Nov 25, '14 12:11pm  
....From the depths of my being, I wholeheartedly appreciate each of you.......I thank you for simply caring, and thinking enough of me to share your beautiful sentiments, your own very personal stories, your offer ( @mm4731  ) to punch this crazy ***** out, and for all of the wisdom that's been brought out into the light.........I know that some of you aren't particularly religious, and that's cool, but I just want you all to know that I honestly feel that our Creator has worked thru you, thru your words, to help, to comfort, to encourage, to console, to offer me peace, humor, and grace....     ...And I am ever so blessed to have each of you in my life, and I thank you so very much for allowing me this privilege........I wish each of you nothing but blessings, good fortune, harmony, joy, health, and an all consuming love, my beautiful friends.... 4951
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Mahm Active Indicator LED Icon 9
~ 9 years ago   Nov 25, '14 10:43pm  
@herron1345, going to tell you this straight up.Family or no family, some times you have to have that line in the sand.  The line drawn in concrete, the line that You Shall Not Pass! EmoticonAnd then when it is crossed, you look at the person and walk away.  Never say a word.  You don't need to.  They know.  She totally owned you tonight.  Got you sucked into bs you didn't want to deal with, and shouldn't have to deal with.My oldest sister is bat **** crazy.   I washed my hands of her 5 years ago.  I am not sad about it either.  I do not have drama in my house.  I grew up with that mess, and I will not ever have it in my house.  This is my line in the sand.  And it will be a scorched earth to anyone who tries to bring this to me.  My kids have never been around that, and they never will.  Not going to happen.I understand my sis has mental health issues.  I feel for her.  But she needs to get on some meds, and fix her life.  Until then, I say prayers for her, and just let it go.  She manipulates, and she is just a piece of work.  Sure her doc says she has a mental illness.  But I say she has always been this way.  Never an issue as long as things are going her way.  Let this change, and the nonsense begins.   That will work on kids, but as an adult I have no issue kicking you to the curb.My kids don't miss her, because I never let them be around her.  If my kids want to deal with crazy, they can do some inpatient volunteer workEmoticon  I don't deal with friends who have drama, and I never participate in it.  I don't do things that bring discourse to my family.  And no one else is going to bring that crap to my door either.  If I want to waste a few hours of my day, I can waste it with my kids having fun. My middle sister, it took her 3 more years before she did what I did with our oldest sister.  3 years of hell.  Like I told her, as an adult, I do have a say in how I live my life.  And the title Family doesn't give anyone the right to bring me down.  Plenty of curbs in this world, my friend.  
 
@Fallon: I just wanted you to know that I have been pondering these words all day. I have re-read this post several times. I'm still letting it sink in. It may take a while. Thank you for your words of wisdom. I hope I can meet you someday and give you a big hug.
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~ 9 years ago   Nov 26, '14 12:12am  
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~ 9 years ago   Nov 26, '14 6:52am  
@Mahm, oh you and @herron1345 are too sweet!I was just gobsmacked with this myselfEmoticon   I mean I wanted my own kids to be quiet so I could deal with a bunch of bs.  I still can't believe I was that person.  The me today, would have totally smacked the old me upside my head.I was always the one that had to fix things in the family.  I would have aunts and uncles call me, to get things straightened out.  WTH?  I can sincerely and honestly say, never have I regretted cutting the people out of my life that I have.  Not an iota.  My life is with my dh and my boys.  I am embarrassed and so sad that I wasted the time I did with the drama.  I still shake my head at how stupid I was.Never more, never moreEmoticon  Every once in a while my mom will tell me she spoke to my sister, and had to just hang up, because she wasn't going to deal with drama either.  That I like to hear.  Some people really do get off on manipulating and controlling others.  I have just decided to be too damn mean to be manipulated or controlled.  I so wish I had discovered this when I was in my 20's.  My life would have gone a lot smoother.
 
@Fallon: It's interesting to me that so many people have to deal with this kind of stuff with their families.  I agree wholeheartedly with what some posters mentioned earlier about family being those around you who support and love you, not just someone who happens to share your ancestry.  People are so concerned with maintaining that family relationship and seemingly having this picture in their heads of families together at holidays etc.  That's great if the family is positive, enjoys each other's company and is supportive of one another.  If not, screw it.  Life is too short.   In my case, I have a SIL who is a drama queen, and has all sorts of issues, most of them self-created.  I just stopped taking her calls, deleted her contact info from my phone, and flipped past that chapter.  I reached out to my nephew and said call me if you need something.  There are enough good people in this world to invest your time with that there is no need to spend it on those who try to take advantage of the fact you are supposed to love them because they are "family".  Happy Thanksgiving y'all!
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~ 9 years ago   Nov 26, '14 8:03am  
@Fallon: I hope I can take your advice and follow your example. I know it was intended for @herron1345, but I felt like God was talking to me through you too. For me it's my mom too. You helped me to see where my sister is coming from, because she is much closer to where you are, and I have tried to talk her out of it.I too am the one who is called upon to be the voice of reason and mediate for everyone else. Either my mom has asked me to talk to my sister(s) for her, or the other way around. I have had my share of fights with her too, but somehow we always manage to make up. And she has helped me through some really difficult times in my life (granted, it was begrudgingly and with strings attached), but I feel like I owe her somehow.This week, instead of doing all of the many things I needed to do to prepare for the holiday, or spend time with my precious daughter who is only here for one week, I have been trying to mediate a feud between my mom and my sister, who invited my crew for Thanksgiving, but not my parents. I have wasted hours upon hours with this, and not only are they no closer to a resolution, now my mom is mad at me too. She didn't like my idea of celebrating Thanksgiving  again with them on Friday, at MY house, where I would be the one cooking. She doesn't want to be told the truth, that she creates the drama and conflict with everyone, and that she is the one who needs to change in order for the relationships to work. She has alienated herself from everyone but me. My kids have asked me why am I the only one who loves her. My intuitive DS10 pointed out over a week ago that she was manipulating me, and I didn't want to see it that way. I constantly give her the benefit of a doubt when she is suspicious of everyone else's motives. I am exhausted. And I feel guilty, and angry, and hurt, and irritated. But I don't feel like I can say all of the honest things I want to say, mostly because she is in poor health and I don't want to contribute to that. I don't feel like I can break free from this vicious cycle. Because, like Herron said, it's my mom. 4951
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~ 9 years ago   Nov 26, '14 8:10am  
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