@donnatellaI wish it were just as simply as the holidays, sweet chica.... I honestly do.......But when it's your own mother, who in her aging mind comes up with untrue, imaginable scenarios, and then calls her family to manipulate this made-up drama and BS, and it's just really hard on knowing the right thing to do.......It's very embarrassing to me, angering, and saddening, all at the same time.... ....And unfortunately, this isn't the first, second, or even the third time that she's lied and caused complete commotion, but I'm wholeheartedly thinking of just being done after tonight's events.......This is my own mother, whom I am seriously searching my heart about, thinking that I deserve a happy, healthy, and wholesome life... And she just doesn't fit in with that criteria.......I mean, how much more do I honesty take........When do I say enough is enough, I'm done, and put my husband, myself, and our family first... ....Her actions are unhealthy and detrimental.... I just don't know what to do.... ...I just had a cousin that I haven't seen since I was like in the fifth grade call me up, and threaten to come down from North Carolina and whip my as$........I couldn't even get a word in over her cussing, threatening, and yelling complete nonsense at me.......Heck, I didn't even know who was actually calling me up in the first place......And then when I tried to call her back, after getting hung up on, I got the exact same thing... ....And how convenient that after all of this got started, my mom turns her phone off...
@herron1345: ((((HUGS)))). My Mother in law was mentally ill - no meds- and she managed to split the family like a nuclear reactor splits atoms. It got so I hated Thanksgiving and Christmas and started to dread them starting in Halloween. Dh and I went through marriage counseling.
The best thing I learned is you HAvE to do what's best for YOU and your family- you do NOT want this dysfunction to mess with your family!!!
Unfortunately for me- history is repeating itself - my son who is mentally is and special needs is starting to act like his Grandma. He's pulled some BS and has now blocked my calls and texts. We had to make the difficult decision to not invite him to a Thanksgiving dinner at another familiy's house because I didn't want to drag our family drama there. UGH
I hope you can resolve the problem with your cousin! And as far as your Mom- I pray that you find peace. Our lives got much better when dh cut her off- it hurt but it was better for our family
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