Eh I don't agree with "you marry to make the other person happy" - marriage is a two-way street. And, in order to make the other person happy, you have to begin with being happy with yourself. I also think this guy cheated, and got caught, and felt remorse. Hence this article.Â
@ctl74:
I think you missed the point. BOTH people should feel this Way to make it work-not just one.
I think the biggest part of marriage that's defeating is that it has evolved to be a trap for many. Lots of emotional ramifications to that psychologically. The best way to resolve most anything is a knowledge the other person is a single entity and unique, you can never own them. The only way it works is having total freedom to stay-or go.
Dr. Phil said something once and it's completely true. Before you get too tied up in love, TRAIN yourself to realize all things in marriage should be negotiable. Communicate and negotiate before you get to the point you don't want to any more.
I think we need legalized commitment of love, for people who like the idea of unions but that give way more flexibility to exit. After all, what good is any of it if you have to be forced? Defeats the entire purpose of being with someone bc you want to. 4951