Maybe I'm more cold-hearted, but I would have left feeling used, manipulated and had, even if it was just a $5 gift. It's a matter of principle to me, not a matter of the gift itself. Yes, we should forgive but no one should be a doormat to anyone. There's no justification for how she has treated you, no matter what her excuse was during her dramatic "apology."
@donnatella: If it were my own family, maybe I would care more, but his family is CONSTANT drama & I don't care to be the center of it. The mom & her sister gang up on whichever sister in law they have a problem with, or whichever brother said this to whoever that they didn't agree with. It's always SOMETHING with his family & I'm not down with that. His sister is just bat **** crazy. Whether she feels that way or not, she lives in San Marcus & I can count on 1 hand how many times a year we see her. It's not worth the headache to hear his mom ***** & cry (& yes, this grown woman will literally cry when she isn't happy.) What will put a smile on my face will be walking down the isle come June & seeing that sister in the audience rather than in my bridal party as his mother begged for. That is absolutely never going to happen. His mother & I have not always had the best relationship, so I pick my battles with her these days. When we first started dating 9 & a half years ago, she did not care for me because I'm Mexican. When she found out I was pregnant, she wanted me to have an abortion & wouldn't let me in her house at 6 & a half months pregnant to pee. Ever since having her only grandchild 7 years ago though, she has turned a new leaf with me. Is constantly telling me what a great mother I am, what a great person my DD is growing into, & thanking me for taking such good care of her son. I have forgiven the bad simply because she is now a wonderful grandmother to our daughter, but I have not, & will never, forget. Life is too short to live with hate in my heart towards her. She has given birth to my soul mate & although she has hurt me in many ways, I will always be grateful for her bringing him into this world & overall raising him to be such a wonderful man. If a $15 starbucks gift card will keep the peace, then I can live with that, lol.Â
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