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by: Heathur Active Indicator LED Icon 12 OP 
~ 11 years ago   Oct 11, '12 9:46am  
So my 80 year old grandmother had outpatient surgery 2 weeks ago & has been staying with us those two weeks while she "recovers". I love her with all my heart but she is a grumpy worry wart. Her neck is healed, she is, & has been this entire time, totally self sufficient. She is in good health & does everything for herself & has the entire time she's been here. Gets up & down the stairs just fine herself, prepares her own food, takes meds herself, has barely used her cane (yet has one in every damn room of the house!), but my point is that she is 100% self sufficient. I don't do anything for he except turn on the tv & reach the occasional thing on a tall shelf. I don't understand why she's still here! She's got a nice apartment in a senior complex in The Woodlands! She sleeps during the day & stays awake-ish at night. The guest room she's in is right next to DD's room & up the hall from us. She's got some damn parakeets that have kept us up until 2:30 am & woken us up at 6am for the past WEEK because she leaves the light on ALL night & falls asleep with it on so the freakin things never sleep! Plus she has brought so much crap from home... half of the kitchen counters are covered with her food & medicine, the entire coffee table is covered in books & crap of hers, her guest room light is ALWAYS on, & she's got so much crap in her room that you can't open the door all the way!!! Plus she is the most negative person I've ever met. I don't know how much more I can take but DH & I are about to either go Ozzy Osbourne on the birds, let the cats at them, or set them free because after a week of crap sleep, I'm at my wits end. Advice on how to handle the situation is welcomed because I can't keep nice for much longer... 4951
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lola Active Indicator LED Icon 17
~ 11 years ago   Oct 11, '12 9:50am  
Have you mentioned how grateful you are that she's healed up so well in such a short time and how her neighbors must miss her & how glad they will be to see her?
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~ 11 years ago   Oct 11, '12 9:50am  
So my 80 year old grandmother had outpatient surgery 2 weeks ago & has been staying with us those two weeks while she "recovers". I love her with all my heart but she is a grumpy worry wart. Her neck is healed, she is, & has been this entire time, totally self sufficient. She is in good health & does everything for herself & has the entire time she's been here. Gets up & down the stairs just fine herself, prepares her own food, takes meds herself, has barely used her cane (yet has one in every damn room of the house!), but my point is that she is 100% self sufficient. I don't do anything for he except turn on the tv & reach the occasional thing on a tall shelf. I don't understand why she's still here! She's got a nice apartment in a senior complex in The Woodlands! She sleeps during the day & stays awake-ish at night. The guest room she's in is right next to DD's room & up the hall from us. She's got some damn parakeets that have kept us up until 2:30 am & woken us up at 6am for the past WEEK because she leaves the light on ALL night & falls asleep with it on so the freakin things never sleep! Plus she has brought so much crap from home... half of the kitchen counters are covered with her food & medicine, the entire coffee table is covered in books & crap of hers, her guest room light is ALWAYS on, & she's got so much crap in her room that you can't open the door all the way!!! Plus she is the most negative person I've ever met. I don't know how much more I can take but DH & I are about to either go Ozzy Osbourne on the birds, let the cats at them, or set them free because after a week of crap sleep, I'm at my wits end. Advice on how to handle the situation is welcomed because I can't keep nice for much longer...
 
@Heathur: as much as you want to..you cant go off on an 80 year old woman. have your husband come home saying he has free tickets for a weekend vacation that is for his job and yall have to go .
 
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BooBear Active Indicator LED Icon 16
~ 11 years ago   Oct 11, '12 9:50am  
So my 80 year old grandmother had outpatient surgery 2 weeks ago & has been staying with us those two weeks while she "recovers". I love her with all my heart but she is a grumpy worry wart. Her neck is healed, she is, & has been this entire time, totally self sufficient. She is in good health & does everything for herself & has the entire time she's been here. Gets up & down the stairs just fine herself, prepares her own food, takes meds herself, has barely used her cane (yet has one in every damn room of the house!), but my point is that she is 100% self sufficient. I don't do anything for he except turn on the tv & reach the occasional thing on a tall shelf. I don't understand why she's still here! She's got a nice apartment in a senior complex in The Woodlands! She sleeps during the day & stays awake-ish at night. The guest room she's in is right next to DD's room & up the hall from us. She's got some damn parakeets that have kept us up until 2:30 am & woken us up at 6am for the past WEEK because she leaves the light on ALL night & falls asleep with it on so the freakin things never sleep! Plus she has brought so much crap from home... half of the kitchen counters are covered with her food & medicine, the entire coffee table is covered in books & crap of hers, her guest room light is ALWAYS on, & she's got so much crap in her room that you can't open the door all the way!!! Plus she is the most negative person I've ever met. I don't know how much more I can take but DH & I are about to either go Ozzy Osbourne on the birds, let the cats at them, or set them free because after a week of crap sleep, I'm at my wits end. Advice on how to handle the situation is welcomed because I can't keep nice for much longer...
 
@Heathur: as much as you want to..you cant go off on an 80 year old woman. have your husband come home saying he has free tickets for a weekend vacation that is for his job and yall have to go .
 
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PedroDePacas Active Indicator LED Icon 16
~ 11 years ago   Oct 11, '12 9:51am  
Time to give granny the boot!
 
You just need to just say, "granny, I love you and all, but your parakeets are drivng me and my family crazy. I am happy to see you through from your surgery to being self sufficient again, but its time now for you to go home" 4951
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kingwooddiscgolf Active Indicator LED Icon 13
~ 11 years ago   Oct 11, '12 9:52am  
Moving day this Sat. Grandma...it was nice having you here.  I got some boxes so we can get all your crap packed up and ready to go. 4951
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Horsemagic Active Indicator LED Icon 16
~ 11 years ago   Oct 11, '12 9:57am  
Tell her: "Look at the front door, Granny, now take your parakeets get the hell outta here" Emoticon
 
Glad your granny is doing well, though. Emoticon 4951
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Heathur Active Indicator LED Icon 12 OP 
~ 11 years ago   Oct 11, '12 9:57am  
 
@Heathur: as much as you want to..you cant go off on an 80 year old woman. have your husband come home saying he has free tickets for a weekend vacation that is for his job and yall have to go .
 
 
@BooBear:
 
You have never met this woman... she's the kind of person who if she found a $100 bill, she'd complain that there wasn't 2 of them. She has no friends because she thinks everyone wants something from her, none of her kids but my mom talk to her because she complains & has something ugly to say about everything, no matter how nice you are to her, she's mean & rude. I love her because she's my grandma but she's just not a nice, thankful, or considerate person. And we really will be gone all weekend!! She has NO idea how to work the tv or our phone (even though we've shown her a hundred times) so if something god forbid did happen, she'd be screwed since she doesn't have her life alert necklace here and can't use the phone. 4951
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Heathur Active Indicator LED Icon 12 OP 
~ 11 years ago   Oct 11, '12 10:01am  
Have you mentioned how grateful you are that she's healed up so well in such a short time and how her neighbors must miss her & how glad they will be to see her?
 
 
@lola:
 
Oh I've tried the "you've healed so well!" approach but every time, she responds with how something COULD happen, who knows if it's really healed, & how the paper they sent home said it could take two weeks to heal. Well it's BEEN 2 weeks. And she hates her neighbors. They'll invite her for coffee or to bingo & she never goes because she thinks they'll turn out to be "messy" or just want something from her. 4951
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kingwooddiscgolf Active Indicator LED Icon 13
~ 11 years ago   Oct 11, '12 10:03am  
Tell her you need to fumigate the house...... 4951
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Heathur Active Indicator LED Icon 12 OP 
~ 11 years ago   Oct 11, '12 10:12am  
Oh! And she hasn't bathed the ENTIRE time she's been here!!!!!!!!!!!! 2 weeks!! Every time I suggest it, she says she's chilly & will do it later. 4951
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TexINS Active Indicator LED Icon 12
~ 11 years ago   Oct 11, '12 10:25am  
Just got to tell her that on Saturday you plan to take her to a nice place to eat in the woodlands, then you will drop her off at her apartment. What's the worse that could happen, she might not ever talk to you again? 4951
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~ 11 years ago   Oct 11, '12 10:26am  
I would start packing up her stuff on Monday and have her moved out by Thursday.
Tell her Grandma it was nice having here but you gots to G......O.....
 
Glad she is doing well. Old people sure can be grumpy ( I think it's the lack of sex LOL)
My grandma (dad's mom) always talks bad about my mothers cooking. She acts like she does not know who cooked and makes dumb :***: remarks. She is sooooo mean but I can't help it laugh. 4951
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~ 11 years ago   Oct 11, '12 10:31am  
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N+T Active Indicator LED Icon 14
~ 11 years ago   Oct 11, '12 10:46am  
Not bathing for 2 weeks makes me think she is depressed. Maybe clinical depression? One of my sisters is the same way. She lives in an assisted living home.
 
I told her she had to take a real bath and wash her hair before I would let her hold the baby. She said " then I will just look at her for a distance".
I am going to mail her some photos of Emma before the holidays in hopes it will motivate her to clean up for the visit. But clinically depressed people have no desire to do what it takes to get better. It's a disease and it Sucks the life out of them and their care givers.
 
Sorry you are going through this situation Heathur.
 
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KellyG Active Indicator LED Icon 3
~ 11 years ago   Oct 11, '12 10:55am  
I would talk with her about getting some things set up in her bathroom that would help her feel comfortable bathing/showering. There is a supply store up on 494, take her. Pick out a bath seat and maybe get some handlebars installed in her bathroom. Do it this weekend and move her back to her home. Maybe spend one night with her at her house to make sure she is settled.
 
It's good of you to take her in but let her know it's time to go home. 4951
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