that sucks aggie! ken and i have never gone a full day without speaking. usually just 1/2 a day goes by before he calls. it's not always an apology call, but more like a "i just want to make sure we're ok" kind of call. those calls tick me off so bad! me...being a woman, can go DAYS giving the silent treatment. he can't do that. he doesn't like to leave things unfinished. i need that quiet time to get over it and move on. he likes to move on immediately and act like nothing happened. it's probably good that he's like that though, because if i were left alone i'd fester on it forever.
your hubby is probably just thinking he needs to give you some space and time to get your thoughts together. maybe send him a text saying that you'd like to talk about things after the kids are asleep tonight. not to fight, but to figure out a solution.
A few years ago we had a huge fight. My way of coping is just to shut down. I didn't speak to my dh for 9 days. I slept upstairs, got ready upstairs, stayed at work late. Around day 2-3 I decided I should quit ignoring him, but then I was embarrassed that I dragged it out for so long I didn't know how to stop. He finally wrote me a letter and told me how he felt and that clearly I didn't feel the same way, so maybe we needed to look at divorce. So I finally started talking to him again. We were both miserable during that time. Luckily, we've never had a fight like that again.
Longest ever was a day. That was when DD was very first born though. Money & exhaustion were big contributors to that fight, lol. Now it's just a few hours? We don't fight over the big things... fights don't help the big problems ever, we just talk those out & work on them together. We really don't fight that much now. We've both gotten pretty good at communication, compromise, & either backing off or doing something nice when the other has had a bad day. Neither one of us like to fight with each other & I'm so so so thankful that he is as funny as he is. Even when I'm a grump he always finds a way to make me smile & laugh, even when he's not in the best of moods (which is rare for him to be in a bad mood.). Life is too short to be pissed off all the time. Taramay had the right idea. Talk when the kids are asleep. Don't yell & try not to be sarcastic. Really try to see where he's coming from & then help him try to better understand where you're coming from. Work through it together, then BAM! Make up sex.
I try not to let it go any longer than an hour. The longer you let yourself stew over it the bigger it gets. I try not to let pride keep me from doing the right thing. Marriage is work and takes compromise.