Also, some women find it not financially advantageous to work and put their kids in daycare.  Their paycheck just covers daycare.  Some may work in this situation to keep advancing their careers and others chose to take a break and raise their kids full time.  I think it's a personal descion and one that other people, especially women,  should not judge or ridicule other families about.It really bugs me when women put down other women for the choices and sacrifices  they make for their family.  I think it only tears down the female gender when we should be rising each other up. Â
@foxymama: I didn't put down anyone. My issue was not WHAT was said (I actually agreed with the general point), it was the hypocrisy, and that's all. I pointed out the fact that it was being said by someone also not fully employed telling someone else to work harder to earn more and not be a dependent. That scenario was completely unbelievable. Do as I say not as I do because I'm different, special, highly credentialed, blah blah blah.
I did and still do both, working inside and outside the home. I get up early, fight a hellacious 1 to 1-1/2 hour one-way commute work 10+ hours, come home and tend to family, home, etc., get up and do it all over again, all week. As if that was not full-time enough, I do both fighting auto-immune issues that have many calling it quits, going on disability and living their lives bed-ridden from overwhelming pain and fatigue.
And as I type this last portion, I've just finished cleaning the house so it looks and smells like one of the neighborhood models instead of a frat house inhabited by animals,
So you see, it's not a matter of working mom vs. SAHM, because I have always done both, it's about hypocrisy. I wouldn't expect or tell anyone to do anything I'm not already doing to willing to do myself.
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