So my wife and I are trying for a child (my first but her third) as I want children of my own and to be a real dad, but we are running out of time and have had trouble conceiving over the last few years.It turns out I am probably the problem here and male infertility is a more difficult fix than female.Back in February when I found out it was my issue I Skype'd my parents in England as I was distraught and my wife and I both needed someone to confide in. They seemed understanding but we were pretty much left to deal with it alone.So last week rolls around and my sister asks us to Skype with her (we never Skype directly without my mom being around) and she proceeds to tell us she is pregnant, this hit us like a ton of bricks and we had the hardest time being happy for her.That day, with all of our pain and loss taking over we started a crowdfunding campaign to help us afford the fertility treatment we need. I shared it on FB and twitter expecting my family to understand our need and even if they couldn't help financially to spread the word to others who may. I didn't get one like, one share or one comment, even in private about it. A week later my mom posts some lovey dovey thing about daughters and I let her have it in a private message about abandoning me. She comes back with excuses so I fire back again and then silence, for a week, my wife posts some meme about family turning their back on you on and THEN I get private messages about how wrong I am for saying that. They make a bunch of excuses about how they don't agree with begging for help (what choice do I have, I have been working less than two years, don't have enough credit to get finance, there is no NHS here, no charity will help us now because of my wifes advanced maternal age) and how I was out of order for doing that the day I found out about my sister. None of it means a damn thing to me.There is a rift now which they need to fix and I don't know if they can.Just venting on here I guess.
@CartmanUK35:
I understand your feelings but why not be happy for them? Yes you and yours are struggling to make it happen, but why steal their joy. Stress sometimes causes issues and trying so hard is tremendously stressful. Do you wear boxers or briefs? What's the temp down their? I know your probably laughing at me but maybe alternative ways can help.
Now you brought up crowd funding. That is an issue to me for many reasons.
I am tired of seeing fund me accounts while they live a rich and famous life style. You said working for two yrs. Do you have multiple tvs, cable, cell phones and take vacations, how many cars does the family have.
You said not one like etc. Well sweetie if you can not afford the treatments and it's not covered by insurance I don't think a bunch of strangers are gonna give you several grand to 100 grand.
That's reality.
You said your wife has three of her own. Be their dad and be the best one you can be. By saying her kids, step kids isn't fair to them. You married a woman with children. You married a family. Be a whole dad start using the words my kids.
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