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Discipline in public

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by: foxymama Active Indicator LED Icon 14 OP 
~ 8 years ago   Jun 16, '15 12:44pm  
How do you discipline your kids in public?
 
My 2 year old was pulling on my shirt, fussing, trying to open the umbrella, hitting me, running all over the place while I was trying to register for surgery. I couldn't control her. I finally distracted her with some Cheetos but she still wasn't perfect.
 
What can I do in those situations besides beat the crap out of her?
 
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MarT Active Indicator LED Icon 9
~ 8 years ago   Jun 16, '15 12:49pm  
It's tough when you're doing something you don't want to walk away from. Sometimes all you can do is distract them, get through it and have a chat and consequences later.
 
Many times I gathered the kiddos up, went to a bathroom or car and swatted some tushies in private or just left if it was something they wanted to do. 4951
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~ 8 years ago   Jun 16, '15 12:53pm  
It's tough when you're doing something you don't want to walk away from. Sometimes all you can do is distract them, get through it and have a chat and consequences later.
 
Many times I gathered the kiddos up, went to a bathroom or car and swatted some tushies in private or just left if it was something they wanted to do.
 
@MarT:
 
That's exactly what i was going to say. I only had to do it once with each one, but boy howdy did i theaten them with it a few times. Once you have excused your self and taken them to the bathroom for a swat once, they never want to do that again, 4951
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~ 8 years ago   Jun 16, '15 12:57pm  
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donnatella Active Indicator LED Icon 13 Forum Moderator
~ 8 years ago   Jun 16, '15 12:58pm  
A full-fledged ***-beating might not be PC, but it's more important to instil discipline vs. worry about opinions of strangers. A happy medium has to be found since those strangers can and will call authorities. A healthy swat or two is NOT abuse but will get your point across. 4951
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Annie Active Indicator LED Icon 18
~ 8 years ago   Jun 16, '15 1:00pm  
At 2, life is all about themEmoticon  Sort of like when they turn 16...LOL
 
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You made my day! 4951
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14valentine Active Indicator LED Icon 1
~ 8 years ago   Jun 16, '15 1:00pm  
I had 3 kids in 3 years. My saving grace was training them to expect to be strapped into a stroller or shopping cart at all times when I had to run errands by myself with the whole gang. Also, if I knew we might be waiting a while (doctors offices, etc) I would bring foods and toys they don't get often. 4951
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Maisey1 Active Indicator LED Icon 9
~ 8 years ago   Jun 16, '15 1:12pm  
I found that grabbing my kids around the upper arm just tight enough to dig my finger nails in a bit stopped them in their tracks. It was never hard enough to break skin or leave bruises, but after a couple times of the "mom grab" anytime they would act up in public I just had to reach for their arm and the bad behavior stopped. 4951
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~ 8 years ago   Jun 16, '15 1:14pm  
A full-fledged ***-beating might not be PC, but it's more important to instil discipline vs. worry about opinions of strangers. A happy medium has to be found since those strangers can and will call authorities. A healthy seat or two is NOT abuse but will get your point across.
 
@donnatella:
My mother never cared. Lol We learned real fast if we did not want to be embarrassed to behave.
Those were the days.
At two it's hard. My sis quit going for dinner out because one would have to take the baby out while the rest ate. Yeah by three she was out of it.
 
My grandma used to drag me everywhere. She had a small tablet and some colored pencils she carried.
No matter where we went she'd whip that out as a signal to hush, sit and behave. Of course we drew pictures that told stories and she made a point to look at it and tell us we did a great job.
 
Maybe carry a small coloring book and crayons and while waiting your turn either color with her teaching her colors, shapes etc. When it's your turn ask her to draw specific things for you. If she has a favorite toy bring it and give it to her while you do business. Even throwing little toys you picked up that are new can distract her mind.
I used to pick up a bunch of silly things at party city etc and put them in a bin or basket. The kids and friends were there with their kids got to pick out a game etc so we could visit. It gave us time with less interruption.
 
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Burnsway Active Indicator LED Icon 13
~ 8 years ago   Jun 16, '15 1:14pm  
I believe in spanking but a full fledge *** beating on a 2 year old for this situation would not be the route I would go. They have barely learned to talk and **** on a toilet. You cant expect them to behave in a situation most adults get edgy during. As far as they know they are about to get a shot or something unpleasant may be about to happen if your at a dr office. If your at a store all the isles of goodies is extremely over whelming. Eating out they dont understand yet that maybe they can be loud at home but not out. Especially when they look around and see every adult talking. Its not fair to expect any child under three to have any idea of adult expected social behavior. 4951
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~ 8 years ago   Jun 16, '15 1:27pm  
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Nurse3 Active Indicator LED Icon 10
~ 8 years ago   Jun 16, '15 1:43pm  
I found that grabbing my kids around the upper arm just tight enough to dig my finger nails in a bit stopped them in their tracks. It was never hard enough to break skin or leave bruises, but after a couple times of the "mom grab" anytime they would act up in public I just had to reach for their arm and the bad behavior stopped.
 
@Maisey1:
 
That and get eye level with the mom look works like a charm in most cases. 4951
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donnatella Active Indicator LED Icon 13 Forum Moderator
~ 8 years ago   Jun 16, '15 1:51pm  
I believe in spanking but a full fledge *** beating on a 2 year old for this situation would not be the route I would go. They have barely learned to talk and **** on a toilet. You cant expect them to behave in a situation most adults get edgy during. As far as they know they are about to get a shot or something unpleasant may be about to happen if your at a dr office. If your at a store all the isles of goodies is extremely over whelming. Eating out they dont understand yet that maybe they can be loud at home but not out. Especially when they look around and see every adult talking. Its not fair to expect any child under three to have any idea of adult expected social behavior.
 
@Burnsway: Oh a 2-year old? I have to admit, I missed that detail. At that age, we popped on the butt through the diaper to get his attention, but the anything more is too much. Spanking did happen later. 4951
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~ 8 years ago   Jun 16, '15 1:56pm  
if you know you are going to be going some where that  is not the proper place to have a child in tow, then hire a sitter to watch your child. It makes your day& the child's day so much better. It's never a good idea to take a child into an area where business is being preformed . Your time will go faster when you do not have to worry with your child. A small fee to a good sitter will make everyone feel better . 4951
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~ 8 years ago   Jun 16, '15 2:00pm  
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taramay Active Indicator LED Icon 14
~ 8 years ago   Jun 16, '15 2:01pm  
Talk about your expectations ahead of time. Then again before going in. If she starts acting up, remind her. If it continues, a warning of what the consequences will be. Again...a trip to the bathroom for execution of said consequences. Then return to what you need to get done. If she screams through it...so be it. Somestimes you just have to be the person with a screaming kid.When i was teaching, if i had a runner, i would have them hold onto my belt loop. i agree that there are times when it's all about the kid. But that cant be true all the ti,e. As parents we have things that must get done. It's not always pretty with a screaming toddler, but it's reality. Try your best to  ot allow her behavior to get you upset or stressed. She'll feed off it a d it'll just make it worse. If a distrsction works, make her earn it. Tell her she can have a snack or whatever after sitting quietly for 2 minutes. And keep your end of the deal.  4951
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