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by: Haybugg Active Indicator LED Icon 4 OP 
~ 9 years ago   Dec 10, '14 6:22pm  
I use to like to have personal posts so, why not start again? I like outside views and opinions even if harsh, maybe because I'm so quick to give my own.So I've been dating this guy on and off for about 6 months. We def. have some issues to work out, he's 26 & I'm 28 the age difference isn't really a big deal other than he's just now establishing himself, normal. He has some anger issues which bother me & his dad and I don't really get along well, I try to not let it bother me. On the hand he makes me happy and tries really hard to be a good boyfriend. He's never really had a serious girlfriend but there is just this, what if there is something else?Which brings me to a question, What if there's something better? or is accepting this person your with  and being patient the
key to it all? With that being said there is someone at work whom I've met & am getting to know and starting to really like. We have more in common he comes from a good background, he's stable and we just seem to 'connect'. I don't want to take it any farther but then again I kind of do.....is that bad? 4951
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ProblemAgain Active Indicator LED Icon 10
~ 9 years ago   Dec 10, '14 6:29pm  
why do you have to make a choice right now? you said you have been dating the one guy off and on for 6 months...dating is kind of like shopping...when you go shopping for a dress, you don't buy the first one you look at. you try different ones to see how they fit with you. and down the line, you pick the one that causes you the least aggravation don't limit yourself just because you dated one guy off and on...(oh and the dad not liking you is a red flag...that might not get better) 4951
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BooBear Active Indicator LED Icon 16
~ 9 years ago   Dec 10, '14 6:30pm  
Settling, even for a good person, is still settling. If he isn't right for you then you aren't right for him either even if they think you are. It's almost selfish to continue with a relationship you are having second thoughts about. It is just stopping both of you from finding someone that makes you happy. 4951
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Haybugg Active Indicator LED Icon 4 OP 
~ 9 years ago   Dec 10, '14 6:31pm  
Settling, even for a good person, is still settling. If he isn't right for you then you aren't right for him either even if they think you are. It's almost selfish to continue with a relationship you are having second thoughts about. It is just stopping both of you from finding someone that makes you happy.
 
@BooBear: I think kinda think so too.
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Mahm Active Indicator LED Icon 9
~ 9 years ago   Dec 10, '14 6:32pm  
I would say if someone else has caught your attention, and you can picture yourself being with the other person instead of the one you're with, AND you're not married or even in a long term exclusive relationship, then this on and off boyfriend is not the one for you. Even if guy #2 doesn't work out, guy #1 is not the right guy. Don't ever settle. This is coming from someone who is twice divorced, because I tried to be patient with guys who weren't ready to grow up. And guess what. They never did. 4951
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mutton Active Indicator LED Icon 9
~ 9 years ago   Dec 10, '14 6:34pm  
I use to like to have personal posts so, why not start again? I like outside views and opinions even if harsh, maybe because I'm so quick to give my own.So I've been dating this guy on and off for about 6 months. We def. have some issues to work out, he's 26 & I'm 28 the age difference isn't really a big deal other than he's just now establishing himself, normal. He has some anger issues which bother me & his dad and I don't really get along well, I try to not let it bother me. On the hand he makes me happy and tries really hard to be a good boyfriend. He's never really had a serious girlfriend but there is just this, what if there is something else?Which brings me to a question, What if there's something better? or is accepting this person your with  and being patient the
key to it all? With that being said there is someone at work whom I've met & am getting to know and starting to really like. We have more in common he comes from a good background, he's stable and we just seem to 'connect'. I don't want to take it any farther but then again I kind of do.....is that bad?
 
@Haybugg:
If you are questioning is there something better than he is not what you want...do not waste his time, not fair. 4951
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ProblemAgain Active Indicator LED Icon 10
~ 9 years ago   Dec 10, '14 6:35pm  
the trouble with settling is that 5 years down the road you want OUT and so do they. to make a lasting relationship, you have to really want it so you hold together and work thru the rough patches. if you are only sorta there, that won't happen 4951
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ShineyApples Active Indicator LED Icon 17
~ 9 years ago   Dec 10, '14 6:46pm  
Anger issues are a deal breaker with me.  If he can't handle life's ups and downs what can he handle?  Go with your gut on this.  If you are questioning this relationship, you may already have your answer. 4951
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cgm10sne1 Active Indicator LED Icon 10
~ 9 years ago   Dec 10, '14 6:51pm  
@haybugg  you've been on my mind................if your are okay in your job...if not pm me. I have a great opportunity with Hubs company............contract, travel worldwide.....about 40k contract.   plush...........and the company needs three.........pm me if intersted. it's a flight attendant gig...without the training but to be a glorified hostess....................but see the world............london paris, especialy.  send me your resume 4951
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BooBear Active Indicator LED Icon 16
~ 9 years ago   Dec 10, '14 6:55pm  
the trouble with settling is that 5 years down the road you want OUT and so do they. to make a lasting relationship, you have to really want it so you hold together and work thru the rough patches. if you are only sorta there, that won't happen
 
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5 years, 15 years or 40years...it eventually catches up. 4951
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BooBear Active Indicator LED Icon 16
~ 9 years ago   Dec 10, '14 6:56pm  
@haybugg �you've been on my mind................if your are okay in your job...if not pm me. I have a great opportunity with Hubs company............contract, travel worldwide.....about 40k contract. � plush...........and the company needs three.........pm me if intersted. it's a flight attendant gig...without the training but to be a glorified hostess....................but see the world............london paris, especialy. �send me your resume
 
@cgm10sne1:
 
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Heathur Active Indicator LED Icon 12
~ 9 years ago   Dec 10, '14 7:10pm  
I think that if you're having feelings for someone else & posting something on a public forum, this guy is not the one for you.
 
That being said, I think a lot of people now days (not directing this necessarily at you) are so hung up on finding Mr./ Ms. Perfect that they forget their significant others wonderful qualities as soon as a problem occurs in a relationship. Everyone is flawed, ourselves included. I see so many friends & family members fall head over heels for someone, then a few months down the road they encounter their first serious problem. Rather than work through it, they give up & move on in their search for something bigger & better. I think that's why divorce rates are so high. Why "giving up" on a marriage has become so acceptable & easily justifiable in today's society. I guess I am very old fashioned (& I am) in regards to marriage values. This specific 6 month boyfriend post though... you're writing a post to strangers seeking validation for your feelings & you are having feelings for someone else. This relationship is not the right one for you. I really hope you find happiness. Emoticon 4951
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~ 9 years ago   Dec 10, '14 7:18pm  
@haybugg �you've been on my mind................if your are okay in your job...if not pm me. I have a great opportunity with Hubs company............contract, travel worldwide.....about 40k contract. � plush...........and the company needs three.........pm me if intersted. it's a flight attendant gig...without the training but to be a glorified hostess....................but see the world............london paris, especialy. �send me your resume
 
@cgm10sne1:
 
Good god where do I sign up! 4951
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mutton Active Indicator LED Icon 9
~ 9 years ago   Dec 10, '14 7:23pm  
I think that if you're having feelings for someone else & posting something on a public forum, this guy is not the one for you.
 
That being said, I think a lot of people now days (not directing this necessarily at you) are so hung up on finding Mr./ Ms. Perfect that they forget their significant others wonderful qualities as soon as a problem occurs in a relationship. Everyone is flawed, ourselves included. I see so many friends & family members fall head over heels for someone, then a few months down the road they encounter their first serious problem. Rather than work through it, they give up & move on in their search for something bigger & better. I think that's why divorce rates are so high. Why "giving up" on a marriage has become so acceptable & easily justifiable in today's society. I guess I am very old fashioned (& I am) in regards to marriage values. This specific 6 month boyfriend post though... you're writing a post to strangers seeking validation for your feelings & you are having feelings for someone else. This relationship is not the right one for you. I really hope you find happiness. Emoticon
 
@Heathur:
Well said!!! I been married 30plus since 23. It works cos we both know there are times we over heat, cool off, and good again. 4951
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~ 9 years ago   Dec 10, '14 7:24pm  
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BooBear Active Indicator LED Icon 16
~ 9 years ago   Dec 10, '14 7:28pm  
@heathur you are right, everyone is flawed but when you look at your husband...What do you see? A man with his flaws, yes, BUT...
 
No-one is perfect but there are some key indicators that she has the ability to see right now. 4951
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