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by: Okiedokie Active Indicator LED Icon 11 OP 
~ 9 years ago   Nov 29, '14 5:50pm  
Do you hope for the best but expect the worse, look on the bright side, what do you do??? 4951
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BooBear Active Indicator LED Icon 16
~ 9 years ago   Nov 29, '14 5:52pm  
If there is something helpful that can be done, I do it. If not, I just continue on with my day. I don't think of it, I don't dwell on it.
 
Editing to add that outwardly, no one ever really knows how I am feeling about something. I just repress it and it will come out at odd, unrelated times. I dont think that is very healthy though. 4951
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mattem Active Indicator LED Icon 5
~ 9 years ago   Nov 29, '14 5:53pm  
Hope for the best but prepare yourself for the worst. Hope everything is ok 4951
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Stealth83 Active Indicator LED Icon 16
~ 9 years ago   Nov 29, '14 5:56pm  
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Okiedokie Active Indicator LED Icon 11 OP 
~ 9 years ago   Nov 29, '14 5:58pm  
I see it as a challenge, it is there to help us become stronger.   I acknowledge it I get ticked off, then I get focused on how to move on
 
@Stealth83: I am just having a hard time processing that I might not be around for my child
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~ 9 years ago   Nov 29, '14 5:59pm  
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BooBear Active Indicator LED Icon 16
~ 9 years ago   Nov 29, '14 6:01pm  

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>> I see it as a challenge, it is there to help us become stronger.   I acknowledge it I get ticked off, then I get focused on how to move on
 
@Stealth83: I am just having a hard time processing that I might not be around for my child
 
@Okiedokie:
 
If that may be the case then you could almost consider yourself lucky. You will have the chance to prepare your baby and help them to be able to come to terms with it. That would be the greatest gift you can give them. 4951
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~ 9 years ago   Nov 29, '14 6:01pm  
I listen TO the bad news. I then give the appropriate facial reaction the news bearer expects. Then once I'm alone I will dwell and brood. 4951
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Okiedokie Active Indicator LED Icon 11 OP 
~ 9 years ago   Nov 29, '14 6:08pm  

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>> I see it as a challenge, it is there to help us become stronger.   I acknowledge it I get ticked off, then I get focused on how to move on
 
@Stealth83: I am just having a hard time processing that I might not be around for my child
 
@Okiedokie:
 
If that may be the case then you could almost consider yourself lucky. You will have the chance to prepare your baby and help them to be able to come to terms with it. That would be the greatest gift you can give them.
 
@BooBear: I have prepared the best I can...I have a will...I just refuse to tell her anything.  She knows her mom is sick...that is it.  I can't tell my my 8 year old that chances are her mom will not be around in a few years.  Its completely sucks but I am hoping for the very best
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kman1000 Active Indicator LED Icon
~ 9 years ago   Nov 29, '14 6:14pm  
Wow thats really depressing, dude. No one should have to think about that EmoticonI don't know what your medical issue is, but dont dwell on it and focus on being as happy as you can be! Just being happy and not letting this worry/stress you out will give you a better chance at kicking this thing right in the teeth! (I understand thats probably WAY easier said than done, and I am in NO way trying to minimize what you are going through!)Sending good vibes your way! And internet hugs!If money becomes an issue there is a GREAT crowd sourcing site you can use called gofund.me 4951
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~ 9 years ago   Nov 29, '14 6:15pm  

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@Stealth83: I am just having a hard time processing that I might not be around for my child
 
@Okiedokie:
 
If that may be the case then you could almost consider yourself lucky. You will have the chance to prepare your baby and help them to be able to come to terms with it. That would be the greatest gift you can give them.
 
@BooBear: I have prepared the best I can...I have a will...I just refuse to tell her anything.  She knows her mom is sick...that is it.  I can't tell my my 8 year old that chances are her mom will not be around in a few years.  Its completely sucks but I am hoping for the very best
 
@Okiedokie: I can see how that would be hard. She is 8 so old enough to grasp that people do not live forever. You gotta be honest with her but in a way where she can grasp the seriousness but still be age appropriate. These memories are going to be hers for the rest of her life and you dont want her to have any "if I only knew", or " I wish I could haves"
Kids are a lot stronger than we give them credit for. You have notuce and time to give her right now. A lot of parents dont get that.
 
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mattem Active Indicator LED Icon 5
~ 9 years ago   Nov 29, '14 6:15pm  
I had no idea. I'm so sorry. How much does she know? Do you have a supportive family? 4951
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~ 9 years ago   Nov 29, '14 6:20pm  
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~ 9 years ago   Nov 29, '14 6:28pm  
I lost my dad suddenly at age nine, and the best advice I can give is to make every moment count and don't leave anything unsaid. Let your child know that you love her, and that you're proud of her. I would also consider trying to prepare her just in case, so that she has the opportunities to ask questions now. Also, I'd spend some time telling her some stories about you and her extended family. One of the biggest regrets I have is that I never got that opportunity with my dad, and there is so much about him that I'll never know now. I think the videos are a great idea!
 
Praying that you get the best outcome and that all will be well for you! 4951
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Mahm Active Indicator LED Icon 9
~ 9 years ago   Nov 29, '14 6:36pm  
I know this isn't the same, but technology gives you many opportunities to record things for her so you are there with her at various events.
 
@Stealth83:
 
I think that is a great idea. Make video messages for her prom, her graduation, her wedding, the birth of her first child. And even smaller things, like getting her period or her first breakup. Those are the times that girls miss their moms.
 
@okiedokie: I wasn't aware that you were going through this. Emoticon
If you need to talk or need a distraction, message me. 4951
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Ashley87 Active Indicator LED Icon
~ 9 years ago   Nov 29, '14 6:59pm  
Have you ever seen the movie Safe Haven? ..You could write your baby letters for every special event in her life..Birthdays, High School, College, Wedding etc. ..Prayers to you 4951
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