Don't miss what's happening in Kingwood
People on Kingwood.com are the first to know.
Go to top of page
Close
 
Close
Back
* CONTEST TODAY: 24 Hours Only - Win a $25 Gift Card to Panera Bread!  Ends in 5 hrs Read more »

Mental or Physical Abuse

Mental or Physical Abuse

12»
« Back
This discussion has been locked.
Message Menu
by: mommaof4 Active Indicator LED Icon  OP  New Member
~ 9 years ago   Sep 27, '14 5:06pm  
I saw something today that happened while shopping and it posed a question to me that I never really thought about until today, but is mental or physical abuse worse?
 
I have always thought but were terrible and uncalled for, but after today this big fat **** should have been talking to someone much bigger than the lady he was with and maybe his mouth would have got punched good.
 
This lady could not do a damn thing right according to him, and yes I followed them for a bit. Call me a stalker. LOL
 
Have you ever witnessed something like that? To the point you secretly wish that you could help her? 4951
* Reactions disabled on political threads.
What are your thoughts? Log in or sign up to comment
Replies:
Message Menu
fcabanski Active Indicator LED Icon 16
~ 9 years ago   Sep 27, '14 5:10pm  
It's situational.  The recipient judges the abuse done to him. 4951
* Reactions disabled on political threads.
Message Menu
donnatella Active Indicator LED Icon 13 Forum Moderator
~ 9 years ago   Sep 27, '14 5:12pm  
I have and I got right in the guy's face and told him off. Told him to go pick on someone his own size and gender and I bet he would get his *** pummeled. Told her she had options and not to put up with that bull**** for a second. Told him if I were her I might have already poisoned him or killed him in his sleep, just for shock value. He was a big dude, well over 6 foot, and as short as I am, was literally staring up at him, ripping him a new one. Couldn't help it. He had verbal abused her all over the store, she was cowering down to him like a doormat and I was sick of hearing it. 4951
* Reactions disabled on political threads.
Message Menu
Mahm Active Indicator LED Icon 9
~ 9 years ago   Sep 27, '14 7:03pm  
@mommaof4 & @donnatella:
 
What are the odds you are talking about the same guy? Part of me hopes so, but unfortunately this problem is too common for that to be likely. 4951
* Reactions disabled on political threads.
Message Menu
donnatella Active Indicator LED Icon 13 Forum Moderator
~ 9 years ago   Sep 27, '14 7:08pm  
This was several years ago. Hopefully, she's long since kicked him to the curb. 4951
* Reactions disabled on political threads.
Message Menu
topcat Active Indicator LED Icon 12
~ 9 years ago   Sep 27, '14 7:10pm  
Karma's a *****.  Dudes like that eventually get what's coming to them.  I really wish women would stop putting up with that crap though. You *know* when someone is treating you like crap.  I can't feel sorry for anyone( a grown *** woman) staying in a situation where they are abused. There are resources in this day and age to help people move on from bad situations. 4951
* Reactions disabled on political threads.
Message Menu
attila Active Indicator LED Icon 2
~ 9 years ago   Sep 27, '14 9:04pm  
On the other side of the issue, last year right before Christmas, my daughter and I went to Walmart in Porter to pick up I don't remember what. When we were in the self-check line, there was a big ole honey of a woman treating her poor husband like crap. She was being such a ***** to him, and the poor guy wouldn't even look up to make eye contact with her or anyone else.The problem she was having was that he wasn't handing her the items to scan in the order she thought he should. I can't repeat what she was calling him, but she strung together some doozies! Well, turns out we were parked near them, and when we were leaving, she was still berating him and gave him the old "just wait 'til we get home." As we drove off, I realized my daughter had rolled down the window and started to say something, but changed her mind. I asked her what she was going to say and also why she changed her mind about saying it. What  she was going to say to the woman was, of course, not very nice, but what changed her mind was the realization that if she had said something, the poor man would have probably ended up paying for it. 4951
* Reactions disabled on political threads.
Message Menu
mommaof4 Active Indicator LED Icon  OP  New Member
~ 9 years ago   Sep 28, '14 9:02am  
Yes, Attila I too have seen this from both males and females doing this to the person they are with. I understand wanting to put cold with cold and etc... but really to lose your dang mind over something so small. I personally think the problem goes much further than that. It's about control!!! CONTROL, CONTROL!!!!! the cashier is still going to bag the groceries how she/he bags them. It does not matter how scattered they are on the belt.
 
This jerk from yesterday kept yelling at her that she was the rude one, the one that gets **** off all the time, well I did not see her showing her a** yesterday, only him. She just looked like a beat dog cowering down.
 
I just came home and prayed for her, prayed that God intervenes and gets her away from him or changes him somehow.
 
4951
* Reactions disabled on political threads.
Message Menu
topcat Active Indicator LED Icon 12
~ 9 years ago   Sep 28, '14 9:35am  
@mommaof4 I almost think you are talking about my ex boyfriend. He twisted things, and everything was my fault. He would frustrate me to the point of raising my voice, then say "see how you always yell". I'm so glad that I chose not to put up with his brand of bs. No one deserves to endure someone who messes with their head like that. The second best day of my life was when I told him to take a hike, using different words of course. The *best* day off my life was when I met my soul mate almost 3 years agoEmoticon 4951
* Reactions disabled on political threads.
Message Menu
Mahm Active Indicator LED Icon 9
~ 9 years ago   Sep 28, '14 10:28am  
@mommaof4 I almost think you are talking about my ex boyfriend. He twisted things, and everything was my fault. He would frustrate me to the point of raising my voice, then say "see how you always yell". I'm so glad that I chose not to put up with his brand of bs. No one deserves to brevity someone who messes with their head like that. The second best day of my life was when I told him to take a hike, using different words of course. The *best* day off my life was when I met my soul mate almost 3 years agoEmoticon
 
@topcat: My ex husband used to do the same thing to me. Picking fights, pushing my buttons, and then commenting that he was being calm while I was yelling. One night a lightbulb went off, and I decided to record the conversation. I remained calm and he continued to try to provoke me. It drove him nuts, and he wouldn't let up. Pretty soon, he was yelling. Things were different after that. My mindset, I mean. I started reading books about how to deal with manipulative men. It kept me somewhat sane until I was finally able to leave, which entailed living in the right jurisdiction for more than 6 months.
 
4951
* Reactions disabled on political threads.
Message Menu
Fallon Active Indicator LED Icon 18
~ 9 years ago   Sep 28, '14 10:46am  
Removed By Request 4951
* Reactions disabled on political threads.
Message Menu
donnatella Active Indicator LED Icon 13 Forum Moderator
~ 9 years ago   Sep 28, '14 10:47am  
Seriously, no wonder some women just say "to hell with it, I'm done with men" then decide to check out the other team. I completely understand the logic...I just can't get past the sex part of it...missing a very important necessity that CANNOT be replaced with even toys for very long, IMHO. I like the big strong hot aspect of guys, but dealing with their mindset drives me bat**** crazy.  Yes, I get the Men Are From Mars... thing, but I know there are some out there that at least attempt to understand women, and give a good-hearted effort.  And THAT is why I read smut written by women.  4951
* Reactions disabled on political threads.
Message Menu
angiekaye Active Indicator LED Icon 16
~ 9 years ago   Sep 28, '14 11:04am  
if verbal in public you can bet its physical in private.Verbal abuse to me is worse than physical.  I can get over a punch (thank god I never have)  but when you ruin someones self pride, self esteem.. you cant get those back!  Words stick like glue!  After years of being told everything I did was wrong (parental) it destroyed my self esteem.  Now people get upset with me because I apologize for everything even if its not something I did. 4951
* Reactions disabled on political threads.
Message Menu
mgw300e Active Indicator LED Icon 11
~ 9 years ago   Sep 28, '14 6:03pm  
I now have a story to add.
 
I'm sitting in the Atascocita McDonald's because my kids wanted to go to the one with the big playground. Anyway, this redneck *** is sitting at the table next to me, stained wife-beater t-shirt and all, regaling this half of the restaurant with his "I'm so **** at everyone at work" story. If his loud voice wasn't enough, his story has the obligitory cursing and bad grammar. Apparently he doesn't realize that he is surrounded by kids. Luckily, my kids are playing and can't hear him.
 
At one point, his wife says something he feels is too stupid and he rips into her about it. She's tripping over herself apologizing to him and his 8ish year old daughter walks up and asks him a question. She can't hear his answer so he shouts it at her, followed by "can you understand me now?!?"
 
All I know is that if the swearing continues when my kids come sit down, I may end up on the news for knocking his block off.
 
@topcat, get the bail money ready. 4951
* Reactions disabled on political threads.
Message Menu
bind_MY_laces Active Indicator LED Icon  New Member
~ 9 years ago   Sep 28, '14 10:14pm  
Its so easy to say what you would do and how you would never put up with it. Until you are in the situation personally, you honestly dont know how you will handle it. Most of these women know they arent being treated right..its a matter of feeling safe and confident enough to leave after years of abuse. Just sayin... 4951
* Reactions disabled on political threads.
Message Menu
buffaloglenn Active Indicator LED Icon 11
~ 9 years ago   Sep 29, '14 7:05am  
if verbal in public you can bet its physical in private.Verbal abuse to me is worse than physical.  I can get over a punch (thank god I never have)  but when you ruin someones self pride, self esteem.. you cant get those back!  Words stick like glue!  After years of being told everything I did was wrong (parental) it destroyed my self esteem.  Now people get upset with me because I apologize for everything even if its not something I did.
 
@angiekaye: Not arguing, but just will say that no one person should be able to "destroy your self esteem".  There is no person on earth who could destroy my self esteem, but I probably am just lucky to be a confident person.  It is up to each of us to build our own self esteem, with help from good people around us, over our lifetimes.
4951
* Reactions disabled on political threads.
12»
This discussion has been locked.
« Back to Main Page
Views: 2
# Replies: 17

Equinox Outdoor Lighting




MiCo Environmental Solutions LLC ~ GENERATORS Logo ClubHouse Playcare Logo Kingwood Pet Resort Logo Lampson Retirement Solutions Logo Katy.com Logo AFC Urgent Care Kingwood Logo CoCo Crepes Waffles & Coffee Logo Primrose School of Kingwood Logo Pet Ranch Inc. Logo J & M Construction & Remodeling Co. Logo Repipe Solutions Inc. Logo The Pines at Porter Logo Kingwood Service Center Logo Preserve at Woodridge Logo Wild Birds Unlimited Logo Madd Roofing Logo Elite Hospital Kingwood Logo Sharky's Waterfront Grill Logo
Sponsor an ad Sponsor an Ad »