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What Little Girls Wish Daddies Knew

What Little Girls Wish Daddies Knew

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by: FoFa Active Indicator LED Icon 17 OP 
~ 10 years ago   Feb 5, '14 8:58am  
From The HUFF.POSTI'm spending the morning waiting for my car in the repair shop. Four men in flannel (I missed the flannel memo) and I sit around smelling tires and inhaling exhaust fumes while an enchanting little fairy is in constant motion around her daddy. She climbs on him, giggles, turns around, and then she's back to twirling on the tile.She's bouncing and spinning around in her pink frilly skirt. Her black cable knit tights are sagging around her tiny knees, and her puffy coat makes her arms stand out further than is natural. To top off the ensemble is a shiny crystal tiara. It's been tacked down to her head with what appears to be about 60 haphazard bobby pins.She's probably 4 years old. So little, so vulnerable. She doesn't seem concerned about it as she sings about teapots and ladybugs in her black Mary Janes. I feel myself tear up as I watch her. I tear up as I watch him watch her. She could not possibly know at 4 what impact this man, his character or his words will have on her for years to come. And, maybe he doesn't know either.So, to all the daddies with little girls who aren't old enough yet to ask for what they need from you, here is what we wish you knew:1. How you love me is how I will love myself.2. Ask how I am feeling and listen to my answer, I need to know you value me before I can understand my true value.3. I learn how I should be treated by how you treat my mom, whether you are married to her or not.4. If you are angry with me, I feel it even if I don't understand it, so talk to me.5. Every time you show grace to me or someone else, I learn to trust God a little more.6. I need to experience your nurturing physical strength, so I learn to trust the physicality of men.7. Please don't talk about sex like a teenage boy, or I think it's something dirty.8. When your tone is gentle, I understand what you are saying much better.9. How you talk about female bodies when you're "just joking" is what I believe about my own.10. How you handle my heart, is how I will allow it to be handled by others.11. If you encourage me to find what brings joy, I will always seek it.12. If you teach me what safe feels like when I'm with you, I will know better how to guard myself from men who are not.13. Teach me a love of art, science, and nature, and I will learn that intellect matters more than dress size.14. Let me say exactly what I want even if it's wrong or silly, because I need to know having a strong voice is acceptable to you.15. When I get older, if you seem afraid of my changing body, I will believe something is wrong with it.16. If you understand contentment for yourself, so will I.17. When I ask you to let go, please remain available; I will always come back and need you if you do.18. If you demonstrate tenderness, I learn to embrace my own vulnerability rather than fear it.19. When you let me help fix the car and paint the house, I will believe I can do anything a boy can do.20. When you protect my femininity, I learn everything about me is worthy of protecting.21. How you treat our dog when you think I'm not watching tells me more about you than does just about anything else.22. Don't let money be everything, or I learn not to respect it or you.23. Hug, hold, and kiss me in all the ways a daddy does that are right and good and pure. I need it so much to understand healthy touch.24. Please don't lie, because I believe what you say.25. Don't avoid hard conversations, because it makes me believe I'm not worth fighting for.It's pretty simple, really. Little girls just love their daddies. They each think their daddy hung the moon. Once in a while when you look at your little gal twirling in her frilly skirt, remember she'll be grown one day. What do you want her to know about men, life, herself, love? What you do and say now matters for a lifetime. Daddies, never underestimate the impact of your words or deeds on your daughters, no matter their age. 4951
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cgm10sne1 Active Indicator LED Icon 10
~ 10 years ago   Feb 5, '14 9:01am  
That is wonderful @fofa, thanks for sharing 4951
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WskyTngoFxtrt Active Indicator LED Icon 10
~ 10 years ago   Feb 5, '14 9:04am  
Way too long and sappy. I nodded off. 4951
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cgm10sne1 Active Indicator LED Icon 10
~ 10 years ago   Feb 5, '14 9:26am  
Lol @wtf haaaaaaaa 4951
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Nurse3 Active Indicator LED Icon 10
~ 10 years ago   Feb 5, '14 9:31am  
Love this!  From a gal who never knew her father:  Dads cherish your little girls because that is where their strength will come from.  That is where her self esteem takes root.  How you treat her is how she will expect any man in her life to treat her. 4951
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Heathur Active Indicator LED Icon 12
~ 10 years ago   Feb 5, '14 9:32am  
What an awesome read! Thanks for sharing @FoFa! 4951
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TheTruthHurts Active Indicator LED Icon 12
~ 10 years ago   Feb 5, '14 12:10pm  
Love this!  From a gal who never knew her father:  Dads cherish your little girls because that is where their strength will come from.  That is where her self esteem takes root.  How you treat her is how she will expect any man in her life to treat her.
 
@Nurse3:
 
Well, that isn't true!! The men in my family have been nothing short of awesome. I haven't found many men out in the world with the same ethics...or character. 4951
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Heathur Active Indicator LED Icon 12
~ 10 years ago   Feb 5, '14 12:18pm  

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>> Love this!  From a gal who never knew her father:  Dads cherish your little girls because that is where their strength will come from.  That is where her self esteem takes root.  How you treat her is how she will expect any man in her life to treat her.
 
@Nurse3:
 
Well, that isn't true!! The men in my family have been nothing short of awesome. I haven't found many men out in the world with the same ethics...or character.
 
@TheTruthHurts: That's probably why you haven't found Mr. Right yet then, you're waiting for a man just as awesome with similar ethics & character as the men in your family. I agree with @Nurse3. The way your father/ male role models treat you is the standard at which you hold other men to later in life. Just becaue you haven't met many men similar to those in your family, that doesn't mean they aren't out there. Keep looking, you'll find yours. Emoticon
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~ 10 years ago   Feb 5, '14 12:38pm  
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~ 10 years ago   Feb 5, '14 12:40pm  
Here's another passage that has always been one of my favorites.  Sorry for the length, but it is good reading:The Power of a Father Is IncredibleWhat is the most powerful word in the English
language?  Have you ever thought about
it?  List some possibilities: love? Hope? Vision? Sacrifice?  There are many candidates.
 
How about Dad?
 
Ever thought of it that way before?  Just walk through what you know about
life.  When it comes to power in a
youngster’s world, I’ll put my money on Dad. 
As words go, hope, vision, and sacrifice don’t mean a whole lot to
little tykes.  But the power of Dad
reaches far beyond a youngster’s childhood. 
The power of a father is incredible.
 
I remember years ago standing on the banks of a
river in central Washington.  I was just
a boy, and boys on riverbanks toss rocks. 
My dad was with me and we were throwing rocks together.  They would fly farther and farther out into
the current with telltale splashes.  It
was pretty exciting stuff to see just how far out into this swift, wide river
we could wing those missiles.
 
Then something awesome happened.  Dad picked up a rock a little larger than the
others.  He windmilled it once around his
shoulder, stepped into it and heaved
that rock like I had not seen before. 
Wide-eyed, I traced its arc into the sky, and it sailed clear across the
river and bounced on the opposite bank. 
My jaw dropped.  To this youngster
it was an awe-inspiring display of raw power. I remember wondering that day if
my dad might really be Clark Kent – Superman in disguise.  I thought to myself, I am the son of the most powerful man in the universe.  I wanted to be just like him.
 
Little did I know then that my father’s impressive
physical strength was just a metaphor for the incredible spiritual strength of
a father.  It was a visable symbol of an
invisible reality.  Like no other person,
a father possesses a special power to mold another’s life, shape it, give it
form.  When you think about it awhile,
there are few things more powerful.
 
My dad’s physical strength showed up a long in
projects, chores, and things such as throwing rocks across rivers.  But on one day in particular, I was struck
again with that strength and how it could touch me.
 
Down the hill from our house was a vacant lot.  On one occasion Dad and I were down there
together…..must have been playing catch. 
I don’t remember.  But I will
never forget the run up the hill.
 
In the midst of our activity, mom came to the front
porch and called us to dinner.  Dad and I
glanced at each other.  Our eyes
met.  They sparkled.  Without a word we both sensed it was ‘time
for a race’.  We took off running up the
hill.  It was glorious, running along
with my dad.  Man, it was great!  But try as I might, my little legs couldn’t
keep up with his long ones.  He started
to pull ahead.  My neck strained.  My muscles stretched.  But I was losing ground.  Then, just like it did throwing rocks across
the river, something really special happened.
 
Dad, seeing me start to drop back, reached out his
hand to me.  His eyes said Grab hold. 
Let’s run together.  Still
running, my little hand slipped inside his larger one.  It was like magic!  His power lifted me right off the
ground.  I took off in his strength.  My speed doubled because my dad had hold of
me.
 
That’s a lot like life.  A kid’s speed doubles when Dad takes hold at
home.  Take hold, Dad! Hold on for all you’re worth.  Hold on in the face of storms and
disappointment and sorrows and temptations and hurts and crazy, churning
circumstances.  There isn’t much of
anything in life children can’t face with Dad’s strong hand wrapped tightly
around theirs.
 
And while you’re at it, with your other hand, hold
on tightly to your heavenly Father’s hand. 
Let Him be your
confidence and wisdom and stability when you just can’t find your own.  Let His strength pull you up life’s long
hills until you stand together, laughing and catching your breath, on heaven’s
front porch.
 
After all, isn’t that what Fathers are for?
 
4951
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~ 10 years ago   Feb 5, '14 12:41pm  
sorry for all that gibberish at the start and end....not sure where that came from! 4951
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~ 10 years ago   Feb 5, '14 1:21pm  
"3. I learn how I should be treated by how you treat my mom, whether you are married to her or not.""So then because thou art lukewarm, and neither cold nor hot, I will spue thee out of my mouth. "  Revelations 3:16You can't have it both ways.  A child doesn't learn how to treat people well, about relationships, about commitment, from people who won't commit. 4951
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~ 10 years ago   Feb 5, '14 1:33pm  
"3. I learn how I should be treated by how you treat my mom, whether you are married to her or not.""So then because thou art lukewarm, and neither cold nor hot, I will spue thee out of my mouth. "  Revelations 3:16You can't have it both ways.  A child doesn't learn how to treat people well, about relationships, about commitment, from people who won't commit.
 
@fcabanski: You can't make that assessment without knowing someone's situation IMO. There's too many variables in relationships in this day & age. Married, together, or dating other people, I agree with the poster that regardless of the parents situation, it's important for both parents to treat one another with kindness & respect for the sake of their child, especially when the child is in their presence. I do agree to an extent with you though. The best way to teach your child about a healthy, monogamous relationship is to have one yourself. A kids parents are their biggest role models in most everything they do.
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