So my bridesmaids have had a big part in their role in the wedding, I wanted it that way. They chose the dress they're wearing out of a choice of 3 & it was unanimis which dress theh wanted. It wad also my favorite. They've known which dress they are wearing for 7 months & have known the entire time that this stunning gown they chose costs $225. We all went yesterday for lunch & their fittings, & all my girls but 1 made the $135 down payments, they have the next 4 months to pay them off. The girl who didn't pay had already made arrangements with the place to do so Monday. All anyone said was how pretty the dresses are & that every single girl planned to alter the dress short & get more wear after the wedding becauss they loved it so much. Well today the girl who didn't pay decided to back out of the wedding. At first she said it was financal (although NO ONE said anything for the previous 7 mos about the price) but after DH & I offered to help her pay for the dress (shes family), she said that money didn't matter, she was backing out because she felt bad about DH's middle sister that isn't going to be in the wedding. The girl's who paid yesterday signed a non negotiable, non refundable contract for their dresses so even if it was financial, it would be too late.
I'm super hurt though plus now I have to find another bridesmaid. DH has ready asked his 4 guys months ago so I can't just have 3 girls. They are designer dresses that take 4 months to be made & the wedding is in 5 months. So I have to find a replacement bridesmaid like, now. I've had it all over facebook & instagram that they were my 4 & part of the drama with his one sister not being in the wedding is that she's always competed with this cousin who's backing out. I don't know what to do. How do I ask someone else to be a bridesmaid? They'll ask why I waited so long to ask them, what happened with the other girl, etc. I feel sick to my stomach. Advice? 4951